Miss Independent’s Tips for Singles
So I have been out of a relationship for about three months now and I am remembering just how much I love being single. Of course I miss some things about being with someone, but I love having the excitement of meeting cute guys and having new prospects. I might not be looking for another relationship for a while, but nothing says I can’t have fun in the meantime.
This weekend put a little damper on my “fun” because it was Valentine’s Day. I won’t even get started with how stupid I think this commercialized holiday is…however, despite my indifference, it can’t help but be the one day in the year that a small part of me wants a special someone. I hate to admit that. I blame it on the chocolate…it is an aphrodisiac.
I actually have met a guy that I am a little interested in. Though “interested in” is a relative term for me. I’m not looking to date him, but I would like to hang out more. I have been out of the game for so long that I don’t quite remember how to “hook” a guy. I feel a little like an 80 year old woman trying to date again.
Part of me feels really comfortable back in this land of the single people, but sometimes I feel like I am out of practice. I also seem to have forgotten some of the important lessons I learned before I got in a relationship and now that I am single again I have to re-learn them. I have made some mistakes of my own and I have witnessed other girls make mistakes. Here are 5 tips for girls who are out in the scary single world:
- Guys are all the same. You may think you have found one who is ‘different’ from the others, but it is not true. Deep down they are all the same. This has its benefits though because you always know what you are working with and once you figure out one of them, you have figured out all of them.
- Don’t waste your time playing silly games. Guys don’t like to play. There is a difference between getting a guy to chase you and getting a guy to play games with you. If he has to play games, he will lose interest. If you are into a guy let him know. If you are not into a guy let him know. It saves us all time and energy.
- If you want to date a guy, don’t give too much too fast. Haven’t you heard the saying, “why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free?”
- No one, guys or girls, like someone who is clingy. If you are always the first one to text or call or make a move…just stop. If half your calls and texts are being ignored…REALLY stop. Move on.
- Do not worry about what others think. Sure, if your friends strongly encourage you to stay away from a guy because he is a pathological liar, on probation, or married…you may want to listen. But if you are afraid to give a ‘geek’ or the ‘frat boy’ a chance because of stereotypes or what others will say or think, then there is no excuse. If you like him, give him a chance. It may pay off.
- Miss Independent
